So You’re Single, y Que!

So You’re Single, y Que!

by Sandra Gonzalez, posted on 2008-11-05 18:14:06

By Sandra Gonzalez

 

Let me tell you a story of girl just like you: she’s Latina, pretty in her own fashion, outgoing, smart, and over all happy. You think that any guy who sees these qualities would jump at the chance to be with her, right? But, the story doesn't end that way…of course not! Being Latina in your 30's and single seems like a pecado...but why? Every time I run into family from Mexico, the same 3 questions always get asked: "Why are you not married yet? Did you know that you’re going to miss your boat?" (Boat! I'm sorry I get sea sick!) And last, but not least: "Why don't you want to get married?/What's wrong with you?!" Seriously, girls, is there something wrong with wanting to wait? I'm in the process of getting to know myself and what I want to do with my life. I understand that our mothers and abuelas have been brought up to believe that you have to get married at the good old age of sixteen. Yeah, it's unbelievable to imagine in this day and age. I mean, you’re barely breaking away from playing with munecas. What pressure! But as the years pass by, it seems like my family has given up on the idea of me settling down. To them, being in your 30's and unmarried, makes you considered a spinster… AYE!! Not too long ago, my mother told me that if I don't want get married, I should at least try to get pregnant. Are you kidding?! Having a baby is so much responsibility…and I definitely lack it, lol! So if reading this makes you feel like you've been there, I want hear how you’ve dealt with it!

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I completely agree about getting the third degree from family members. Being 30 myself, I have come across many instances where family, from my grandmother to cousins, ask the dreaded question, "So when are YOU getting married?" What consoles me is that I am proud to be a successful, independent, Latina who is far happier than any of my family members who decided to get married at 18. I see all the issues they deal with from kids to disgruntled husbands and I am glad I am not in their shoes.
- Anel Nevarez