Step-Mommy Dearest
by Christina J. Tovar, posted on 2010-02-17 23:22:26
So what happens if the man you fall in love with and are about to marry has kids? In today’s society, it’s no surprise that this may be the situation. What can you do to incorporate this child into your big celebration? Start by involving the child in the planning stages. Ask the child for their opinion and keep them informed as the wedding approaches. This will make the child feel like part of the wedding. When choosing a date take into consideration visitation days to make sure it will not be an issue for him or her to be present. Another idea I suggest is when the engagement photos are taken include the child in at least one shot. This will visually convey the idea of the family unit at his/her dad’s. At your shower, have the child help in the opening of the gifts and you can even make them a t-shirt that says “Bride & Grooms Assistant”.
Although the child is probably used to you and your fiancés relationship understand that this may still be a sensitive time for them and don’t take any emotional outbursts to heart. Always communicate and ask the child how he or she feels. When you marry someone who has children, you must accept them as your own. One of my biggest pet peeves is to hear a woman complain about her man’s kids when she knew very well, they existed from the beginning and that this would be part of the relationship. The important thing is, always remember that you and your fiancé share a love that will endure and survive any situation!
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