In-Law-Zilla

by Christina J. Tovar, posted on 2008-10-30 23:44:27

By Christina J. Tovar

 

There’s something about Weddings that create a variety of emotional havoc!  From the flower girls to the florist everyone is always concerned with the Bride. What about the groom? Who really even takes the time to make sure he is holding up while Bridezilla has her daily fits?  Don’t say the best man! All he is interested in is the Bachelor Party. So, who helps him out? His Mami of Course! Mucho cuidado amiga, because she is the one person who can make your day (and entire life) Satan’s paradise.

It is a known fact that Men gravitate towards their Mamis. There are few women who can say that they have a close knit relationship with their future mother-in-law. Some women have this misconception that because they are to marry this man, it does not matter what his Mami thinks. WRONG! Don’t make a mistake by making him choose between the two of you or creating an agonizing situation. Understand and realize that she is not going anywhere!

In my personal experience, I married the “baby” of the family and it was difficult; but I tried very hard to understand her. I believe she honestly did the same. I now have a son and someday hope that when he marries I can be involved to some degree in his wedding. Let’s go over “The Top Ten Tips For A-Better- Relationship-With-My-Mother-in-Law-And-Keep-My-Man-and-Sanity”. Please keep an open mind and be willing to compromise at a level that is acceptable to the both of you.

• -Try to include her in the event planning- with so many things to be done I am sure she will be willing to help.

• -Something Old, Something New- ask her to give you a new or old item to wear on your big day. She will be so proud looking at you walking down the aisle wearing her locket!

• -Don’t pick Favorites- we all know your mother will be involved but don’t make things obvious or compare. No one will take your mother’s place.

• -Remember his side counts too! - try to incorporate his traditions and customs into your Day’s Events. Talk to his mom about the significance; she will be pleased.

• -Spend the Day Together- designate a day when you can go have lunch or go shopping

• -Give her a call just because- let her know you care and just want to know how she is doing.

The ultimate goal is to create the “mother-daughter” bond not the “Mother-in-Law” curse!

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